Feb 16, 2022
Love anarchy is one of my favorite topics and something I've been exploring deeply over the past year.
A lot of what we call love is actually the negotiation of needs and the creation of contracts on a relationship escalator, with the agenda to decrease the likelihood of experiencing hurt, rejection, and abandonment.
Therefore, what we understand as love in society has more to do with fear and insecurity than with actual love
We are negotiating caretaking, codependence, contractual agreements in relationships and calling it LOVE.
Our popular understanding of love is actually a corrupted concept.
Love anarchy, for me, is about allowing love to flow freely in relationships, without unhealthy attachments (the gripping and grasping for something external to fill you), without the expectation that it has to be reciprocated, offering love from a place of abundance and genuine desire to give.
It's a whole practice, one that involves coming back to your own love and trusting the experience of love that is shared.
This is uncolonizing and deconditioning and cyclebreaking work!
To give love freely you HAVE to be resourced in self-love to be able to give it from a place of overflow.
If you're holding your partners back in any way, can that truly be considered love?